Month: June 2019

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Choosing Happiness: Understanding Content vs Context

The most important way you can not only improve your own life, but help transform the lives of everyone around you, is by choosing happiness. This is the most effective way to make a positive impact on our world, which is so full of negativity and fear. Happiness is not something you will ever discover outside of yourself. It will never come to you. It can only come from within, and you can only enjoy it by releasing everything blocking your happiness so it can shine through.

What’s blocking your happiness? Ask yourself. When I say you can choose happiness, do you have an instinctive response such as, “I can’t be happy, because X, Y and Z.” What are X, Y and Z? Why do they have such power over you? How can you choose differently so they don’t have this power? How can you transform your outlook in such a way that you are more loving to yourself?

Do you not believe that happiness can impact the planet and humanity in general? Think about it—if everyone alive right now was completely happy and at peace, how would that change the state of the world? How would it affect violence, war, politics, religion, cruelty to women, children and minorities, greed, wealth inequality and standards of living? If everyone was content with having just enough to fulfill their basic needs, and were happy to take care of one another, how differently would our world look? If fear and greed were gone, what would change? Would the world not be a more loving place to exist?

When you choose happiness, it infects everyone you come in contact with. Others see your joy and are inspired to try choosing it for themselves. Happiness is infectious. Just one person can have a huge impact without even knowing it.

The key to beginning to choose happiness is to understand the CONTENT of our lives versus the CONTEXT. The content of our lives is made up by the labels you give yourself, the things you possess, the place you live, the job you have, the things you do, the people around you, the goals you have, the failures you’ve suffered. Most of humanity fervently believes the way to happiness is via changing the content of our lives. Let me assure you, this is utterly false. Stuff, things, money, and ideas will never create happiness.

Want proof? Look at the wealthy people in our world. More than anyone else, they’re focused on the content of their lives. Appearances, luxury, and attention are what drive and plague them. Their egos have run away with themselves, clouding out any chance to discover the path to actual happiness. They’re some of the most miserable people you will ever meet.

So what is the context of our lives? This is who you are, why you’re here, and the lessons you’re meant to learn. ‘Who you are’ in this sense has nothing to do with your race, gender, sexual orientation, job title, etc. This refers to the great I Am. The truth of your Being, the wholeness of your Spirit. When everything else is peeled away, and just your soul is left behind, who are you? You came into this life for specific reasons, to grow in specific ways. What are they?

When you die, all you will take with you when you go is your soul. Nothing else will matter. When my brother Matt passed away, I visited a psychic medium who not only helped me connect and get closure with my beloved brother, but also gave me a little glimpse into the future. I had since becoming estranged from my family and specifically from my only living sibling. Matt told me via the medium that our brother was stuck on a path where accruing wealth was his only priority, well about love or happiness. I was told he would die believing he had “won” (since he had been so busy manifesting what he broadcast, he would indeed get the wealth he so desperately craved), and only then would he see the real truth. It would be far too late to change his fate.

When we die, we are held accountable for our choices and actions. The stuff we left behind makes no difference at all. There are only three possibilities: you progress, you remain stuck, or you regress and diminish. The sooner you become aware of how to progress, the more you can accomplish while you’re still here to do it. Don’t wait until your life is over and poor choices condemn you to more suffering.

Abandoning focus on the content of our lives in favor of delving into the context is the way to infuse your life with joy and peace.

We incarnate into our bodies with specific limitations programmed in. We all have to learn to cope with lack. Our bodies, our minds, our ‘shells’ will fall short and fail us in ways that are intentional for our life purpose. These details of lack are there for a reason! There is nothing wrong with you! You’ve been assigned a unique challenge that’s pointing you directly toward where you need to go. Stop wasting energy worrying about where you feel you fall short compared to others, and instead learn to surrender with an open heart to truth and your purpose. Have faith in the love surrounding you at all times, in your guides and your Self. Embrace who you are with all of your shortcomings, knowing they’re serving you well. Let go of fear and choose love.

What aspects of the content of your life have you been worrying about? How can you let them go? How can you discover more about your context? Start there.

Love and blessings, friends.

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You Manifest What You Broadcast

Sometimes the simplest truths are the most difficult to accept. The funny thing about life is that once you begin to awaken and see more clearly what’s going on, it is astonishingly simple to understand—we just have to let go of doubt and fear. One such truth is that our thoughts and choices determine our experience. This means that whatever thoughts you tend to latch onto in the privacy of your own mind, and whatever choices you keep making, are a direct message to the universe of what you want to experience. So, the universe gives it to you. It’s helpful that way.

If you choose to worry all the time, the universe will give you more things to worry about. If you choose to obsess over comparing yourself to others, it’ll give you more opportunities to do that. If you are stuck in the past, the universe will keep you spinning in your old circles, prohibiting you from advancing to something new and better. If you’re angry all the time, it’ll help you find more things to be angry about. Do you see the pattern here?

But, if you instead choose to pursue things that make you feel happy and healthy, it’ll place things in your path to make you feel happy and healthy. If you choose to have fun and laugh, it’ll give you more things to have fun with. If you forgo fear and choose love instead, it’ll give you love in return. If you choose bravery, it’ll help you be brave. If you choose peace, it’ll help you remain peaceful.

See? It’s really not that hard. We all have free will. That means we get to determine our experience, even if we choose a miserable experience. Nothing will stand in our way, because our choice is always respected. We’re the Creators of our world. We shape our lives each moment of every day.

Yes, this means your thoughts are not private or secret. They “count”. Yes, it means there are real, visceral consequences to what you think about. The universe does respond to thought. Thought creates energy (either positive or negative) and all of our world is built with energy. Your thoughts create a ripple effect around you, affecting everything and everyone in your vicinity. Your spirit guides communicate telepathically, so yes, they know what you’re thinking. So many of us think we can get away with nasty, negative thought patterns, but they will draw harm into your life. They’re a toxin that will drain you of energy and joy. But if you manage to clear your mind through practices such as meditation, you’ll be much more receptive to guidance to help you along your journey, and a mind cleared of fear or negative thought patterns is one that will easily channel joy and peace.

How many people do you know who seem to have tragedy after tragedy befall them? Who use all of their energy letting the rest of us know about their suffering and their endless tragedies? Take a good look at that cycle they’re stuck in. Do you see how one can lead to the other? That if we choose to obsess over negativity, we will stay soaking in negativity? How can positive energy even find us when we surround ourselves with the opposite? Everyone experiences anger or sadness, but choosing to cling to those emotions is up to you. We need to let go of that which does not serve our highest good. The only way out is through. When you are mad, be mad and then let it go. When you are sad, be sad and then let it go. We need to become aware of our emotional state and our mental state. It is only through awareness that we can transcend and grow. No one can do this for you. You are responsible for your own happiness. No one will stop you if you deliberately choose suffering.

The universe and our personal spiritual entourage do not want us to suffer. The system of karma is set up so that we will spiral down into our negativity when we choose it. It will squeeze us harder and harder, our suffering becoming gradually more extreme for the sole purpose of trying to force us to make a different, better choice. It’s not a punishment. It’s the most basic form of growth. You do not need to suffer in order to grow, but if you abandon all other tools for growth and choose suffering instead, the universe will support you in that decision.

If this seems overwhelming the first thing to do, the best place to start, is to become more aware of your thought patterns. Try to notice when you fall into thoughts that make you feel bad. Try to notice when you’re bringing yourself and your energy down. Witness this. Then, make a different choice. Do some self-care to help release those painful thoughts so they can’t hurt you any longer. Go for a walk. Sit down and rest. Watch a funny cat video. Even just focusing on your breath as it goes in and out is a fantastic way to clear your mind of negativity. And ask yourself the hard questions. Ask yourself where your negative thoughts come from, where the stem from, and why. Forgive yourself for them. Find ways to heal the wounds they point to.

Yes, it is possible to quiet down the endless mental “chatter”. Once you become aware the real “you” is the witness to your experience rather that the source of the mental chatter in your head, you can work to remain aware of that truth constantly. Remaining aware and existing as the witness is the way to mental peace and quiet, and more freedom to enjoy life.

You are not here to try to fix things, to save the planet, to change others, to search for your secret magical true purpose, or anything else. You’re here to heal yourself, to relax and enjoy life. Anything meant for you will find you, so in the meantime, pay attention to what you’re broadcasting.

I promise, if you can do this it will transform your entire life for the better.

Love and blessings, friends.